But I've been following the backlash against Miley on Twitter (I'm sure it's been on Facebook as well, but I'm 10 days clean of Facebook and have no intention of going back to it, so who knows what the FB kids are saying, if anything?); and I've been intrigued by the 'slut-shaming' that's been happening to her, whilst Robin Thicke gets off seemingly scot-free. I know Miley's not entirely blameless, but she's a 20 year old kid, who's spent most of her life in the public eye and hasn't led a "normal" life. We all did stupid things when we were 20 (we all did - don't try and deny it - unless you were in a convent, you had times when you were blind drunk and behaved inappropriately when you were in your 20s), but that's the point. She's 20. She's growing up. She's pushing boundaries and learning what's appropriate and what's not. It just so happens that she's doing it in a very public arena.
Robin Thicke, on the other hand, is a 36 year old married, father.
Let's just repeat that.
He should fucking know better.
A few days ago, a friend of mine sent me this:
"Another "gem" from Robin Thicke. Just watch the first 30 secs or so. Ugh.
Well, 30 seconds was about all I could manage. Revolting. And disturbing. As I said before, this man is married. With a child. What kind of woman is he married to that she puts up with this sort of behaviour? And worse, what kind of man is he to write stuff like this and not be concerned that he's: (a) being totally disrespectful to the women in his life; and (b) setting his son an extremely poor example on how to treat women?
Really. What WOULD Dr Seaver say? There's no way Mrs Seaver and Carol would let him get away with such behaviour. Mrs S would kick his ass halfway to Timbuktu.
Which is what I'd like SOMEONE to do. Seriously. I know I'm on my feminista bandwagon here, but this kind of misogyny is unacceptable. He (and his peers) try and pass it off as being harmless, but it's sending a message. A bad message. A message that sets my teeth on edge.
The other little snippet my friend emailed me (along with the above video link), was this:
And this on the Miley VMA performance, which I thought was rather good
"If you think a woman in a tan vinyl bra and underwear, grabbing her crotch and grinding up on a dance partner is raunchy, trashy, and offensive but you don’t think her dance partner is raunchy, trashy, or offensive as he sings a song about “blurred” lines of consent and propagating rape culture, then you may want to re-evaluate your acceptance of double standards and your belief in stereotypes about how men vs. women “should” and are “allowed” to behave."
That about sums it up.